Birthdays are special. They are a man-made yearly
reminder, that you just completed one more year…. yet also bitter sweet, as one side, we are celebrating getting older but
on the other side we have one less year to live.
11th June was my
birthday and I spent it only with my Pretty Girl ( my dog). But something
interesting happened the first time I had to spend it alone.
Unlike the previous birthday I
celebrated with my family, friends and colleagues, this time totally different, indeed I’ve received loads of
messages, but no one physically with me except Pretty Girl who has
unconditional love always.
When morning was rising,
I was frustrated by the thought that I've to spend my birthday alone. It was
very bad feeling at starting of the day, the pang of loneliness kicked in with “Birthday
Blues” feeling …. I told my self…Ooo Noooooo !!!!! its time to wake up wake up
!!! waaaakkkeeeee uppppp !!!!!!!
I’ve posted on our
Praise & Worship Team a message to wished my self a Happy Birthday and oohoohoo….
loads of messages coming in just a second after the message…. I was laughing my
self ….ha ha ha.!!!
If you are feeling lonely, sometimes the best antidote is to
actually reach out to other people or writing in a journal or doing creative
writing.
Having my birthday alone
is not a bad thing at all, I don't really mind of spending time by myself. Indeed, I
need alone to recharging, and the fact
that I have big family and a
few goooood friends, enough for me.
If you ever have to face those kind of situation in your life
(hopefully you never have to) try to enjoy yourself alone rather than covered
with chaos and being sad. We all have different sources to happiness so to
choose the best one is in your hand. Sometimes we want to stay away from people
who fake being friends or well wishers but staying can be positive.
Rather than hope that you will receive gifts from others,
make your birthday the one day of the year when you treat yourself to something
that you’ve been putting off. Something that benefits your mental health as
well would be a good choice.
A day for my self brings a storm of energies. I would
visit certain municipal or NGO schools or folks home, at least bringing something,
nothing much and see their happiness it
would be worth to spend such a day but o yeaaa !!!! this Covid-19 made me cant
do it at that time.
The reason I write this is that loneliness isn't something fate chooses for you. It's a choice you make for yourself. You can do many things for being alone on your Birthday, perhaps : ·
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- Take the day off work.
- Eat what you want, think about dieting and health tomorrow.
- Write letters to the people you care about and email it.
- Wear something great. Pick something that makes you feel good and gorgeous.
- Give yourself a compliment, look in the mirror and say it again.
- Pick up some extra groceries.
- Write about your day, at the end of the day.
- So much more you can do.
It was being outside of our comfort zone that allowed us to experience
something new. Otherwise, I may still being going through my finite birthdays
with shallow instead of deep and meaningful celebrations.
Have A Great Birthday To All !!!!
Cheers !!!!!!!!!
